Bride and Groom Question Game: Sets and Two Ways to Play

The questions that test how well the bride knows the groom are the ones only he can answer, and she has to match his words. A room guessing which partner said a line tests the guests, not her. Start with the sets below, then pick one of the two ways to play.

Questions only she can match

A habit, a private wording, or his version of a story they both lived will show whether she knows him. A fact a guest could have heard at dinner will not. The prompts below say "he" and name the bride as [Bride], so his card and her guess are always about the same person; swap in the names the couple uses. Avoid "you" in prompts: when the same sheet goes to both partners, "you" points at a different person on each card.

Sets sorted by type

Everyday habits

These ask what he does when nobody is performing. She should be able to answer from living with him, not from a speech.

• What does he reach for first when he walks in?
• How does he take his morning drink?
• Which snack does he keep for himself?
• What does he play when the place is quiet?
• Which chore does he take on his own?
• What does he misplace around the house?
• What does he wear when the day has no plan?

Shared history, in his telling

They were both there. His card may still differ from hers. That gap is the point.

• Where does he say the two of them first talked?
• What does he count as the first date?
• Who said "I love you" first, in his telling?
• Which trip does he still bring up?
• What was [Bride] wearing the day they met, as he remembers it?
• What small thing did [Bride] do that he still mentions?
• Who introduced them, in his version?

In his words

She answers as he would, not as she wishes he would.

• How would he describe a good Sunday?
• Which kitchen tool would he grab first?
• How would he describe [Bride] to a new neighbor?
• What is his idea of being on time?
• Which plan does he always make and then change?
• What compliment does he give [Bride] most often?
• What would he order for the table?

Who is more likely

She names a person. His card names a person. They match or they do not.

• Who starts the apology?
• Who remembers birthdays?
• Who suggests staying in?
• Who texts back first?
• Who picks the restaurant?
• Who notices the bill?
• Who makes the weekend plan?
• Who falls asleep first?

Funny questions, kept kind

Funny questions should land on a habit, not a humiliation. One Fab Day tells hosts to know the audience and to be mindful when picking questions, so the bride is not put on the spot in front of her people.

• What would he name as his hidden talent?
• Which of his habits would a roommate put on a list?
• What would he buy first with found money, apart from a gift for [Bride]?
• What animal would he say he is before noon?
• What would he rescue first from a messy car?
• Which of his stories gets longer each time he tells it?
• What would he wear to a party if [Bride] left the outfit to him?

Mark anything sharper as optional, and cut it if parents or coworkers are in the chairs.

• (spicy, optional) What compliment from [Bride] still makes him shy?
• (spicy, optional) Where was the couple's most awkward almost-kiss?
• (spicy, optional) In which outfit does he think [Bride] looks most like herself?
• (spicy, optional) Which song would he call the couple's song in a private moment, rather than at the party?

Trivia a guest could also know

Couple trivia asks for a shared fact. It is a good warm-up. It does not, by itself, test whether she knows him, because a guest who was at the proposal can match the place name.

• In which city did they meet?
• What was the first meal they shared?
• Who introduced them?
• What song do they both call theirs?
• Where was the proposal, in one place name?
• What is their pet's name, if they have one?
• Which season was the proposal?

If you want guests quizzed on how well they know the couple, use this set for them. That is a different game from "does the bride know the groom."

He answers before anyone arrives

This is the game where the groom answers questions for the bride. Funktion Events describes the version where the groom answers in advance and the bride guesses. One Fab Day tells the host to print two copies, give one to the partner to answer in advance, and have the bride answer at the party before each reveal.

What did the groom answer? His exact words, written or recorded, and nothing you tidy up in the moment.

Step 1. Pick one set, or a short mix, and send it to him. One Fab Day says about 15 to 20 questions should do it for a newlywed-style round at a bachelorette. Hitched says 10 to 15 questions work well for a Mr and Mrs quiz. Pick inside that spread for a party round, and save a longer list for a reception if you have one.

Step 2. He writes each answer, or records it, and sends it back. Copy his exact words onto a reveal card the room cannot see. Under a written answer, you may add one also-accept line when his wording has a clear twin, such as "milk" and "a splash of milk." Do that before the party, not while she is talking.

Step 3. At the party, ask her the prompt. She answers out loud or on a sheet. Guests may write a guess on the same prompt if you want a second contest.

Step 4. Read his exact words. A paraphrase makes the round about your memory.

Step 5. Mark a match or a miss with the scoring method below, then go to the next prompt.

At a bridal shower where he will be elsewhere, send him the same list. The questions you then ask the bride about the groom are those prompts, read to her before his card is opened. If she would rather interview him live, that is a conversation rather than this test: ask what he is looking forward to about being married, and which story he wants friends to hear.

For a bachelorette, the paper version of the advance round is What Did the Groom Say?. It is a paper game for the bachelorette: the groom answers questions before the party, the bride guesses his answers, the guests guess too, and the host reads out his exact words. It includes a groom questionnaire with 18 questions (15 mild + 3 optional Spicy), a host reveal card for his answers, a bride guess sheet and a guest guess sheet. Its PDFs are in US Letter and A4. Print it yourself: nothing is printed or shipped.

That file is the bachelorette version of the groom-answers-in-advance format. A bridal shower can run the same steps on paper you print yourself from the sets above. More party prompts, beyond this match game, are in bachelorette game questions.

They answer in the same room

When he is actually there, play it newlywed style: both write, then you reveal together. Nobody needs a sealed card from last week. This tests whether they match in the moment. It does not test whether she memorized answers he sent you earlier.

Step 1. Give each of them the same prompts and a pen. They sit where they cannot see each other's page.

Step 2. Read one prompt. Both write. A who-prompt gets a name. An open prompt gets a short line.

Step 3. They show the pages together, or you read both answers aloud. A match is the same person on a who-prompt, or the same short line on an open prompt. In a live round, skip the also-accept line unless you agreed the twin wording before they wrote.

Step 4. Move on. A long debate after each prompt stalls the room.

Use this at a couples shower or a reception. At a bachelorette he is usually elsewhere, so the advance round fits and this one does not.

Score it on paper

One point for an exact match to his written or recorded words. One point if you wrote an also-accept line before the party and her answer hits that line. A who-prompt scores only when she names the same person he named. An open or funny prompt scores only against his words or that also-accept line, so you are not awarding credit while the room watches.

Guests who wrote guesses use the same rules against his card. If only she is playing, read her total at the end. There is no guest winner unless guests also wrote answers.

A tie goes to one extra prompt already on his card, read the same way. Say the rule before the first prompt so a close call does not become a vote.

An example, with invented names. Maya writes that he takes his morning drink with milk. His card says milk. That is a match. She writes that the trip he still mentions is the coast. His card says the mountains. That is a miss. Read what matched. If a guest tied her, use the extra prompt on his card.

Mr. and Mrs., shoe prompts, and the other names

Mr. and Mrs. questions are couple prompts. Hitched writes that although the quiz is traditionally called a Mr and Mrs quiz, anyone can join in. For an alternative, use the same prompts with your names on the sheet and no titles.

The shoe game is usually a reception who-prompt round, and it also works at a couples shower. The Knot places two chairs back to back, has each partner sit facing away, and has each hold one of their own shoes and one of their partner's. On each prompt they raise the partner's shoe if the line describes the partner, and their own shoe if it describes them. The Knot says to choose 30 to 40 wedding shoe game questions, and that the wedding shoe game should last about 10 minutes. Each question starts with who. Use the who-prompt set above, played with shoes instead of pens. Keep the optional spicy lines out of a reception if the room includes people who did not sign up for a party game.

Prompts aimed the other way

To test how well the groom knows the bride, use the same types with the arrow flipped. He matches her card, or you reveal together if he is in the room.

• How does she take her morning drink?
• What does she reach for when she is thinking?
• Which song does she call hers?
• Who does she phone first with good news?
• What trip does she still bring up?
• What habit of his would she say she relies on?
• What small gift still sits where she can see it?

To test whether guests know the groom, use the first lists in this guide, scored against his card. That is a contest for who matches him. Hand every guest the same sheet. The highest total wins. Her round can use the same card, scored apart, so a guest win does not rewrite how she did.

When guests are the ones matching her, our bride quiz is a pen-and-paper quiz about the bride for a bridal shower or a bachelorette party: guests answer as she would, her own answer sheet is the key, and the guest with the most matches wins. It includes a guest sheet with 28 scored questions, the bride's answer sheet used as the answer key, and a host scoring card. You print the files yourself at home; nothing is printed or shipped.

A longer list of questions about her, for that guest contest, is in questions about the bride. If you want guests to guess which partner said a line, that is a different game, covered in he said, she said. Other shower games that are not about matching him are in unique bridal shower games.

One limit of this advice: an advance round only tests her if his answers stay sealed until she speaks, and a live round only works if he is actually in the room. If he will not write or record, play the trivia set the room already knows, or switch to a shower game that does not need his words.