Bachelorette Questions to Ask the Groom: 30 Ideas

You are picking questions for a round where the groom answers before the party and the bride guesses at it. Every set below has five questions you can use as written. Mix sets so the round starts light and ends on the funny, slightly cheeky ones.

The best questions have a one-sentence answer and a story behind it.

1. Questions about her: five that test what he notices

Her quirks make the best material, because the bride can guess them and the guests cannot. Ask for the real answer, not the sweet one.

• What does she order when she has no idea what she wants?
• Which song does she sing along to in the car, and which line does she get wrong?
• What is the one thing she always forgets to bring?
• What would she buy first if she found $100 in a coat pocket?
• What does she say when she is tired but pretending she isn't?

2. Questions about the two of you: five shared-story prompts

Shared stories give the bride a fair shot at matching him and give the guests something to laugh about. Ask for his version, since the two versions are often different.

• Where did you have your first real conversation, and who spoke first?
• What did he think of her the first time you met?
• Which trip did not go to plan, and whose fault was it?
• What do the two of you argue about most, in a word?
• Who says sorry first?

3. Questions about the future: five that stay sweet

Keep these light. They are for a party, not a talk about the marriage.

• Where would the two of you live if money did not matter?
• What is the first big trip you want to take as a married couple?
• Which of you will cry first at the ceremony?
• What do you want to be doing together in ten years?
• What will she be famous for among the family?

4. Which-of-you questions: five quick ones

Each of these has a short answer, usually a name, so they are easy to score and quick to read out.

• Who is the better driver?
• Who takes longer to get ready?
• Who is more likely to adopt a pet on impulse?
• Who would win a cook-off?
• Who is the better gift giver?

5. Funny questions: five where the answer might surprise her

Ask for a number, a name or a ranking. A funny answer is usually a specific one.

• What is the weirdest thing she has ever eaten with a straight face?
• Which of her habits does he secretly like?
• What would her reality show be called?
• What is the one thing she is surprisingly competitive about?
• If she were a character in a movie, which one would she be?

6. A few spicy questions: five that stay playful

Spicy means cheeky, not explicit. Use one set at the end, and skip it if the guest list includes someone's grandmother or a coworker. You can cut this set without losing the game.

• What is the most romantic thing she has done for him?
• What outfit of hers does he like most?
• What was the first thing he noticed about her, besides her eyes?
• Where is the most unexpected place the two of you have kissed?
• What nickname does only he use for her?

How to choose bachelorette questions to ask the groom

Pick by who is in the room, not by how funny the question sounds on paper. The Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley describes the 36 questions as three sets of 12, each more probing than the last. Borrow the idea: start mild and go a little deeper as the round goes on.

How to collect his answers

Send the questions ahead by text or email, in one message, with a clear date to answer by. A week before the party gives you time to chase him once and still keep his answers secret.

Let him choose how to answer, and ask for one answer per question in his own words. Tell him not to ask her for hints.

If you want the questionnaire, a host card for his answers, a bride sheet and guest sheets already laid out, the What Did the Groom Say? printable game has them in one file. You type the names once and his answers into the host card, then print.

How to score and reveal his answers

Read the question, let the bride say her guess, let the guests write theirs, then read his exact words. A guess scores a match when it means the same thing as his answer. The host decides close calls. For the which-of-you questions, a guess matches when it names the same person.

Add up the matches at the end. If the bride ties or beats every guest, she wins. Otherwise the top guest wins. That is a simple answer to how well does the bride know the groom, and you can turn the round around the other way for the groom to guess her answers.

Do not play it as a quiz show where a wrong guess is shameful. Answers that miss are usually the funniest ones.

A no-drinking version of the rule

A common rule is a sip for a miss and a toast for a match. You can keep the rule and drop the alcohol. Water, soda or a mocktail all count, and nobody should be asked what is in their glass.

If you do drink, keep the amounts in mind. The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism says a US standard drink is a 12-ounce regular beer, a 5-ounce glass of wine or a 1.5-ounce shot of spirits. A sip for every miss across 15 questions can add up, so cap it at one sip per question and let the bride swap in water whenever she likes.

When you do not need a game file

If the groom will not answer ahead, or you only want a list of ideas for the toast, you do not need a printable. Copy the questions above into a text and read the answers aloud. The file only helps when you want paper sheets for the bride and the guests and a printer to make them.

The game is for adults, and the file is for personal use at one party. The start-here guide begins with a test print, so do that before the night.

One last check before the party

Read every question once as if you were the groom's grandmother. Cut anything that you would not say out loud to her. Then make sure the card with his answers is in your bag. If you would rather have the sheets made for you, What Did the Groom Say? is the printable version.

For more ideas around the same party, see bachelorette party ideas and bachelorette party ideas at home.